After upgrading literally everything (bigger turbine, bigger reactor, dimensional transceivers for both water and steam on both) I was able to fix my problem. i do believe the bottleneck was both the turbine and the pipes i was using (first was using enderio, then 3 transfer nodes with full upgrades). Now im up to 10k rf/t and can make it go to 25k once i get some ludicrite.
Thanks for the help buddy.